Tonight as I put Funny to bed, he snuggled under the blanket that my mom had made for me (as a child) and said “Mommy your friend Cyndee make this blanket for me?” and of course I said Yes. (It will be 9 years this year since my mom passed away) It made me wish I had paid attention when my mom tried to teach me how to crochet – just think of the memories and stories you could pass on through the generations. So I came downstairs and whipped up a blanket of my own – this one was a fleece version that just required some cutting and tying and viola a homemade present! I felt domestic!
What makes someone domestic? As I enter my new career as a “stay at home” mom, I dream that I will learn more about this. I would hardly consider myself domestic…I do laundry yes..but often times it sits in the dryer until it is too wrinkled to fold or even worse gets folded and brought up to my bedroom to rot in the basket…as we dig through it each day to find something to wear to the point were I question is that clean or dirty? I cook dinner..well mostly, I usually microwave some veggies and perhaps boil some water for pasta…geez, I wonder why I don’t get rave reviews after dinner. I equate being domestic and doing those household duties as chores and or requiring lots of time, skills and know-how and I lack at least one of those (time) on a given day.
I have a friend who is a fabulous cook and makes everything seem so easy – is it really? Will it still be easy when she has an infant or toddler to care for? For some bizarre reason I still think she will manage to pull it off! Lately I have been dreaming about how my life will look as a “stay at home” mom and what I envision and what I know of myself are very different. Will I learn to cook, clean, play with the kids fully engaged, spend quality time with my husband and still have a little “me” time? Or will I continue to heat up quick meals, tidy up as I go and thank goodness for the day the cleaners arrive, play with the kids while checking my facebook account and give a quick kiss to my Hunny in his office before I head off to bed? As much as I dream for the first scenario I hope to land somewhere in between. I want to become a better me and focus on one thing at a time – enjoy the peace and quiet after the kids go to sleep, take the time to hear what my husband and kids are telling me before I move on to my next task.
Life isn’t very long, which I learned at a young age. Losing my mom made me understand that you can’t take anything for granted and you must be the best person you are today and everyday. Off to read ONE chapter of my new book “Survival Guide for a “stay at home” mom”.
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You are going to be the best SAHM! Sometimes it’s hard to get caught up in doing everything perfect, but your boys will not remember what was for dinner, but instead that their smiling, patient mother played with them everyday. I can’t wait to hear more of your stories!