My Funny man is generally a very sweet and lovable guy. However, lately he
has been “anti-mommy”. It isn’t so much that he doesn’t want me around, it is just that he pushes and pushes my buttons until I’m ready to burst. It is just then when I do burst that I feel terrible and guilty and think to myself – “How could I have done that better?” Or maybe I think “How could that outburst (his and mine) have been avoided?” The other night I went out for about an hour and my Hunny was with the boys. As soon as I arrived back home, the antics started again. Whining, vying for attention and just plain causing trouble, out of both of the boys. My Hunny looked surprised – “They were so good while you were gone and the minute you return this starts again…!” UMMMPH.
I can see Funny struggling a little bit – I’m not sure what the stressor is….sibling rivelry? School? A developmental stage about to show itself? But either way it is causing us both a great deal of stress. I sat him down today after a tantrum and read him the story “When Sophie Gets Angry..” and I am hoping we can find a common ground.
Is this the age or just a stage that will pass?? I know he has the biggest heart and I feel like he is reaching out to me to help him through something, I’m just not sure what it is. Any advice?
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A quick updated on Happy…he is doing MUCH better. I have to say that age 3-4 has been our toughest yet and I think it all about getting to know and understand these little people. Happy is such a smart kid that I often feel like he is too smart for his own good and tries so hard to communicate his feelings and he just can’t yet. I can relate to him so much so and I see traits in him that I have. Those same struggles he faces I face and as his mother I want to help him work through them better then I have ever been able to. As a parent we often want to say “do as I say, not as I do” but we need to show them the “right” way and help them become better people. I want the very best for my kids and Happy is a sparkling example of just how wonderful a child can be. (I might go climb in his bed and snuggle with him right now…ha!)